“I think you expect your partner to know [what you need], especially when it comes to sex. It’s like, ‘Well, if you love me, you should know that. If you like me, you should read my mind. It is a huge pitfall.
If there’s one celebrity wedding that hasn’t quite escaped the limelight lately, it’s Jada Pinkett and Will Smith’s.
It’s no secret that the longtime couple – who married in 1997 and share two children, Jaden, 23, and Willow, 20 – have been open about their tumultuous relationship in the past.
Well, it looks like Jada is now offering more information about her and Will’s marriage – and their sex lives.
On Wednesday’s episode of his outspoken talk show Red table, Jada – accompanied by her mother Adrienne Banfield-Norris and guest star Gwyneth Paltrow – discussed the “uncomfortable” importance of communication when it comes to sex and pleasure.
After Gwyneth revealed that she had “the best sex of her life” as a newlywed, Jada made a striking comparison in light of her own 26-year relationship with Will.
“It’s tough. The thing that Will and I talk about a lot is travel. We started this at a very young age, you know, at 22,” Jada said. “That’s why the part of the game. responsibility really hit for me because I think you’d expect your partner to know [what you need], especially when it comes to sex. It’s like, ‘Well, if you love me, you should know that. If you like me, you should read my mind. It is a huge pitfall.
“Tell me what you need,” she continued. “Tell me what you want, and besides, I know I have to be responsible for doing the same.”
“It’s uncomfortable, but it’s deeply healthy, and I think about sex, because it’s something we don’t talk about, and there’s so much fantasy around it,” she added. .
Jada’s comments sparked a huge conversation, with a ton of people hanging over Twitter to describe the couple as “messy” and “difficult.” Others dragged Jada out for publicly broadcasting their “marital struggles.”
And the comment wasn’t just for Twitter. Jada’s remarks were quickly picked up by the media, with many posts speculating that her comments hinted at the difficulty of maintaining a healthy sex life in a long-term relationship.
Well it didn’t take long before Jada Between the conversation to comment further on the topic.
A few hours after the episode of Red board On the air, Jada took to Twitter to defend herself, writing that she and Will had “NEVER had a problem” in the bedroom.
“Only because I have time today. Stop making the headlines. Check out the @RedTableTalk I made with @GwynethPaltrow for yourselves. Will and I NEVER had a problem in the bedroom . Thank you, ”she tweeted.
Jada’s latest comments come after a year in which a somewhat turbulent history between the couple was discussed, largely sparked by last summer’s ‘entanglement’ drama.
If you missed it, Jada and Will garnered a ton of attention last July after filming a Red board episode to respond to rumors of infidelity during their marriage – which came to light after singer August Alsina said he had a relationship with Jada, courtesy of Will, in 2015.
At the time, August said, “I actually sat down with Will and had a conversation. Due to the transformation of their marriage into a life partnership which they have spoken about many times, and not involving romance, he gave me his blessing.
Before Jada broached her relationship with August, she and Will revealed that they were actually separated indefinitely at the time – and that it was after separating from Will that she ended up in this. that she had initially called an “entanglement” with August. Jada later clarified that it was a romantic relationship.
Will and Jada went on to explain that they finally managed to reconcile their marriage, which led to the end of her relationship with August.
In the months following the Red board episode, Will remained largely silent on the subject. That is, until September of this year, when he publicly commented on his marriage to Jada for the first time in all discussions around him.
In a candid interview with GQ, Will spoke about the conflicting opinions he and Jada had due to their different upbringings, which had rocked their relationship at times, before confirming that the couple had an open marriage.
“Jada never believed in conventional marriage… Jada had family members who had unconventional relationships,” Will revealed. “So she grew up in a very different way than I grew up.”
“There have been endless important discussions about what relationship perfection is? ” he said. “What’s the best way to interact as a couple? And for much of our relationship, monogamy was what we chose, not seeing monogamy as the only relational perfection.
“We have given each other confidence and freedom, with the conviction that everyone must find their own path,” he added. “And marriage for us cannot be a prison. And I am not suggesting our route to anyone … But the experiences that the freedoms we have given ourselves and the unconditional support, for me, are the highest definition of love.
And while Will “delicately explained” to the reporter that it was not Jada who “had other sex,” he did not explain his sexual experiences outside of marriage. However, he confided in that he initially felt guilty about the idea of infidelity due to his Christian upbringing.
“It was really the process that [an intimacy coach] made me understand that my thoughts were not sins and even acting on an impure thought did not make me shit, ”he added.
Elsewhere in his interview with GQ, Will recalled the intense public scrutiny he faced following the infamous Red table discussion.
“The audience has an impenetrable narrative,” he said. “Once the audience has decided on something, it is difficult, if not impossible, to dislodge images, ideas and perceptions. “
“Pursuing the truth is the only way to be happy in this life,” he added. “We kind of agreed that authenticity was the release of the chains of fame and public scrutiny.”